Love of parents towards children


[1 of 1] Swedenborg (1688-1772, Sweden): primary subject "Love, conjugial (marriage)" (search under Inner Life/Love, Positive Emotion, Virtue, Will)": source "Spiritual Experiences, vol.3": detail "Section 4628a - 4629a"
Men of the most ancient Church loved their married partners more than their children, their descendents loved their children more than their married partners. Marriage love is heavenly, so that love begins from that source, because it is innocence. But to love their children and not their married partner, this the worst can do, because they see in their children an image of their own glory, but not in their partner. They can contract aversion for the partners, and love their children, and can be with the partner, and not love, which is upside down. This is done for the sake of the children's education, of domestic matters, as well as for other reasons. It is then a love of lasciviousness that prevails, at the cessation of which there is no love. And if there are no children, they disdain her from the heart.
 When there is marriage love, then at every moment there appears something like when they were first married, or joined together in marriage, and then they are like little children, and play together in almost the same way. But this love recedes if there is not marriage love.
 Marriage love is such that the one wishes to be the other's, entirely as one, and that it is the highest happiness not to be one's own, but to be the other's, and the reverse. It is such a joining together of hearts and minds that the life of the one is the life of the other, and this reciprocally.