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Love, conjugial (marriage)

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[1 of 5] Swedenborg (1688-1772, Sweden): primary subject "Love, conjugial (marriage)" (search under Inner Life/Love, Positive Emotion, Virtue, Will)": source "Spiritual Experiences, vol.3": detail "Section 4192 - 4193"
Marriage is such a love, that the man loves the woman, and they love one another in such a way that they desire to be one, and desire to give each other whatever is their own, and from this mutual feeling that they do not wish to belong to anyone but the other, the love of marriage springs forth. Therefore, all other loves are derived from being mutual, but without being able to be one. Other love consists in wishing, but not in being able to. From this it is obvious that marriage love is the fundamental love, and heaven itself.
 On the other hand, those who want to appropriate everything belonging to another to themselves, so as to make what is another's their own, and who regard the other as of no account, they are in hell, for it is opposite to the former case, to want to take away the life of another and whatever the other possesses, and to make it one's own.


[2 of 5] Swedenborg (1688-1772, Sweden): primary subject "Love, conjugial (marriage)" (search under Inner Life/Love, Positive Emotion, Virtue, Will)": source "Arcana Coelestia, vol.3": detail "Section 2731"
Conjugial love is such that it wills to be wholly another's, and this reciprocally, and that when the love is mutual and reciprocal, they are in heavenly happiness; also that a conjunction of minds is such that this mutual and reciprocal feeling is in each and all things of the life, that is, in each and all things of the affection, and in each and all things of the thought; that therefore it was ordained by the Lord that wives should be the affections of good which are of the will, and men the thoughts of truth which are of the understanding, and that hence is derived a marriage, such as exists between the will and the understanding.

[3 of 5] Swedenborg (1688-1772, Sweden): primary subject "Love, conjugial (marriage)" (search under Inner Life/Love, Positive Emotion, Virtue, Will)": source "Spiritual Experiences, vol.3": detail "Section 3795"
That marriage love is the beginning, and indeed, of all loves, and consequently of all relationships, is quite clear, for all relationships by blood and marriage on earth originate from marriage, i.e. parents, children, brothers, sisters, nearer and more remote relatives by blood and marriage. This applies likewise in the heavens, where the Lord's love toward Heaven and the Church is compared to marriage; so marriage love is the beginning from which all loves originate and branch out, forming blood and marital relationships that are similar derivations of loves. This now shows that the bond of conscience is based primarily on marriage love.

[4 of 5] Swedenborg (1688-1772, Sweden): primary subject "Love, conjugial (marriage)" (search under Inner Life/Love, Positive Emotion, Virtue, Will)": source "Heaven and Hell": detail "Section 281"
True marriage love derives its existence from innocence, because it derives its existence from the conjunction of good and truth, and the two minds of husband and wife are in that conjunction, and when that conjunction descends it presents the appearance of marriage love; for consorts are in mutual love, as their minds are. This is why in marriage love there is a playfulness like that of childhood and like that of innocence.

[5 of 5] Swedenborg (1688-1772, Sweden): primary subject "Marriage, spiritual" (search under Inner Life/Teachings)": source "Heaven and Hell": detail "Section 366 - 368"
As heaven is from the human race, and angels therefore are of both sexes, and from creation woman is for man and man is for woman, thus the one belongs to the other, and this love is innate in both, it follows that there are marriages in heaven as well as on the earth. But marriages in heaven differ widely from marriages on the earth. Therefore what marriages in heaven are, and how they differ from marriages on the earth and wherein they are like them, shall now be told.
 Marriage in heaven is a conjunction of two into one mind. It must first be explained what this conjunction is. The mind consists of two parts, one called the understanding and the other the will. When these two parts act as one they are called one mind. In heaven the husband acts the part called the understanding and the wife acts the part called the will. When this conjunction, which belongs to man’s interiors, descends into the lower parts pertaining to the body, it is perceived and felt as love, and this love is marriage love. This shows that marriage love has its origin in the conjunction of two into one mind. This in heaven is called cohabitation; and the two are not called two but one. So in heaven a married pair is spoken of, not as two, but as one angel.
 Moreover, such a conjunction of husband and wife in the inmosts of their minds comes from their very creation; for man is born to be intellectual, that is, to think from the understanding, while woman is born to be affectional, that is, to think from her will; and this is evident from the inclination or natural disposition of each, also from their form; from the disposition, in that man acts from reason and woman from affection; from the form in that man has a rougher and less beautiful face, a deeper voice and a harder body; while woman has a smoother and more beautiful face, a softer voice, and a more tender body. There is a like difference between understanding and will, or between thought and affection; so, too, between truth and good and between faith and love; for truth and faith belong to the understanding, and good and love to the will.